Friday, May 23, 2014

20 Ways You Can Be The Best Friend Ever

Keeping old friends is quite a challenge compared to making new ones. I may not be the "perfect" best friend. But I'm proud to say that up to now, I still hang out with my highschool barkada. We made new friends along the way but we still maintained our friendship ever if we don't see each other as much as we used to. How do we do it? 

Here are 20 ways you can be the best friend ever:

1.) Don't go MIA on us when you have a boyfriend or girlfriend.
I don't mind being the third wheel. But I don't like it when a friend shows up only when he or she has a quarrel with their significant other. Couples break up but friends will stay with you no matter what.

2.) Though shall not be a freeloader.
Some friendships are unconditional. However, we'd appreciate it more if you also treat us in return. It's a give and take situation. Some people may tolerate it, but personally I don't like being treated like an ATM even if I'm not well off. 

3.) Learn to show up. Don't treat us as your proxy date. 
If you're busy, we get it. We're all busy too. It's okay to cancel on us, but don't do that the last minute. Nothing is worse than waiting for you at a mall only to find out you've ditched us for another date. Not cool.

  4.) Stop the backstabbing.
Don't say things that you know would offend your best friend. Constructive criticism is nice but it's better if your friend heard it first hand from you. 

5.) Learn to be a listener once in a while.
I'm actually guilty of this. You'll be surprised how your best friend will appreciate you more if you know more details about them than blabbing endlessly about yourself. 

6.) Be yourself.
Real friends are the ones that you don't have to try hard just to impress. Be yourself. If the are real friends, they won't mind how much you like eating street foods or shopping at the thrift shop Who knows? They might even join you for those.

7.) Trust each other.
Don't spill their secrets. If you know it's something you're not supposed to share, don't divulge it to others.

8.) Learn to apologize. 
Work things out. If it's your fault, apologize. Nobody choked by swallowing their pride.

9.) Be loyal.
Don't be two-faced. Like I said, friends trust each other.

10.) Stick up to your friend.
Defend your friend if someone is harassing them. Don't allow others to bully them. Best friends don't just let other people mess up with their friend.

11.) Spend time with each other.
The key here is time management. Don't let your busyness get in the way of your friendship. Do your grocery together. Do your errands together. Meet with them once in a while. Real friends make ways no matter how busy they are.

12.) Let your friend have other friends too.
I am guilty of this too. Don't isolate your friend. Let them have their own set of friends too. Sometimes I get jealous if they are busy spending their time with other friends. The best way to get over this is to befriend their friends so you could all hang out together.

13.) Treat your friend as an equal.
As I've mentioned earlier, treat them the way you want to be treated. 

14.) Be supportive.
I am also guilty of this. I eventually learned that a friendly competition is nice. But it's better to be supportive of your friend. Don't put them down just to make yourself look better.

  15.) Learn to forgive.
Friends don't let the little things get in the way of their friendship. Love their flaws. Let go of your grudges and put everything in the past. Accept them for who they are. Nobody is perfect.

16.) Put down your phone.
I am also guilty of this because sometimes I just love surfing the net with my friends. This is wrong because it gets in the way of your bonding time. Just put it down, even if it's difficult to. Lol

17.) Hang out with their friends.
Remember the saying "Tell me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you are"? You'll know more about your friends by hanging out with their friends. It's also a fun way of expanding your social network.

18.) Try new activities with them.
You'll get tired of hanging out with each other if you do the same things all over again. Mix it up. Be spontaneous and have a little fun! 

19.) Call them for no reason.
Again, be spontaneous! If you haven't seen them in a while, ask them how they're doing. Little gestures like that would make me happy already. It makes me feel good that someone is interested to talk to me. Just don't call me when I'm my batteries are running low. Hehe 

20.) A real friend calls
 Since technology is vastly improving everyday, there's no excuses anymore!

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